Do you really want to get back together with ex? You may have an instant reaction that “of course I want to get back together.” But, you should do some soul searching before you answer this question. There was a reason you broke up, and if this reason or reasons are not addressed, you will repeat the cycle.
If you get back together with ex, are you going to be really happy? Or, will you wind up down the same road that got you here in the first place?
After you break up, you may be only thinking about the good times. You’ll forget about all of the problems you had. You’ll think about how lonely you are without him or her not how frustrated you used to get with them.
After a break up, you need to be brutally honest about what you want out of a relationship. Think about both the good times and the bad times before you make any decisions.
Some relationships are not worth saving. If you fought more than you loved, you might want to consider whether there might be a better fit with someone else. Above all, a couple should make each other happy. If you couldn’t do this with your ex, you might want to consider moving on.
That’s not to say that a relationship can’t be saved after a break up. If you want to get back together after you’ve done some soul searching, that can be done. The rest of this article will be devoted to getting back together once you’ve decided it’s worth it.
One thing that you need to keep in mind is that you don’t want to “stalk” your ex. This is not just following him or her around. It also means not repeatedly calling, emailing, or texting them. Don’t stalk them on their social networking sites either. All of these things make you seem desperate.
When you do talk, don’t plead or beg them to get back together with you. Don’t present an aura that you have been “wrong” and you’ll do better in the future.
You may be beating yourself up about the things you did in the past. But the past is the past. Now, you want to move forward.
At the present time, the relationship is over. You don’t have a time machine to go back and change things. Now, you need to concentrate on the things you can do in the present.
Instead, back off and give your ex some space. When you do talk, bring up the fun times you shared and the things you like about them.
Your ex may suggest meeting in a non threatening manner. If he or she doesn’t, you can suggest it. Perhaps you can go to Starbucks and have a coffee. It might lead to a “real” date and then you’re back on your way to being a couple again.
That’s how to get back together with ex.
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